Sarah wrote ‘Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That?’ to provide a conceptual and practical framework for doing childhood story work and facilitate an exploration of the place and purpose of exploring a leader’s childhood story.

Her premise is that every leader in the world is shaped by their formative experiences. Whether they are aware of it or not, their earliest memories are influencing the way they show up; how they interact with others and what triggers their greatest reactivity.

Exceptional leadership coaches are able to skilfully solicit the childhood story that underpins a leader’s characteristic behaviour, helping them access an unprecedented depth of understanding about themselves. Gaining command of this story can be singularly the most transformative act any leader may experience in a coaching relationship.

Dialogix runs training programmes to train coaches to skilfully work with childhood story – becoming a Story-guide. Our ‘Coaching the Childhood Story’ programme equips both leaders and coaches with the framework and skillset to embark upon this work on self and with others.

We also offer a one-to-one coaching package if you want to work on your childhood story with an experienced Story-guide. Similarly, supervision support is available to coaches who are integrating this approach into their practice.

Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That?

A Coaching Guide For Working With Leaders

This second edition of a hugely successful coaching guide to unearthing and working with the impact of our childhood stories of imperfect love is filled with rich and direct quotes from leaders and coaches and the Author herself.

Sarah has also enhanced the original text by adding brand new ‘Try this…’ reflective exercises to use as part of work on Self as well as ‘Practice guidelines and activities’ for coaches to use with others.

Exemplars of ‘childhood story coaching in action’ by practitioners, coaches and individuals working in a range of different settings have also been newly added.

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Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That? Companion Podcast

An exciting new Podcast series about our new book ‘Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That?’ Join the author Sarah and her son Josh as they explore the content of the book together. Listen now to find out more.

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What our trainees say

Here are some of the things people are saying about their experience with us:

  • Sarah is a great coach. She enabled me to let down my armour in Coaching the Childhood Story because she makes herself vulnerable.

    Not only in her great book, ‘Where Did You Learn To Behave Like That?’ but also in our conversations afterwards. She gives good practical suggestions which enabled me to create a new internal narrative. Sarah’s humour prevents it becoming heavy and all-embracing.

  • If, as a leader, you feel you trip yourself up, self-sabotage, or can’t get the leverage you need, have the courage to look within.

    This is not about blame, but acceptance. Acceptance of who you are and where your behaviours come from. By increasing your awareness of who you are as a whole person, you gain insight into others. For me, the programme was the most amazing experience.

  • This is a rare opportunity to look in the mirror and be encouraged to appreciate what you see.

    The skills you will develop will enable you to survive in an increasingly complex work environment.

  • On returning to my organisation I was excited to use my new knowledge to benefit others. Since my return to work I have discussed childhood stories and Structural Dynamics on a daily basis to benefit my coachees, peers and other professionals within the Health Board.

    I must say it’s the best programme I have been on and would recommend it to everyone!

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Do You Dare To Ask?

“I see the childhood story manifesting most frequently when a leader is under pressure of some kind. The reality is that the childhood story is in the room.”Dr Sarah Hill

Coaching packages

  • Practice Support & Supervision
  • £1500+vat
  • 6 x 1 hour one-to-one calls via video conference
  • Work with an experienced Story Guide as you take the concepts into use for the first time after attending one of our programmes
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  • Dare to Look
  • £1500+VAT
  • 6 x 1 hour one-to-one coaching
  • Work with a skilled Story Guide to understand your own childhood story and how it connects with your current behaviour
  • Begin the process of writing your own new internal narrative
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  • Dare to Ask
  • £1950+VAT
  • 5 day virtual workshop and 2 x 1 hour one-to-one coaching
  • Learn how to work with the most engrained and high stakes behaviours by exploring the role that childhood story plays in driving that reactivity
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Upcoming programmes

International Coaching Federation certified training programmes suitable for coaches who want to become adept at reading behavioural patterns effecting change in them

Coaching the Childhood Story16 Sep - 20 Sep 2024£1,950 plus VATRegister